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8 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make #6

Posted by on May 8, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

#6 Parents Place Attention On Changing Behaviors Rather Than Teaching Compassion Research Shows that the most important quality to develop for success in managing relationships at work, school, or in our families is compassion. Children need to be aware of how their actions and words will affect the feelings of others and themselves. We help children to learn empathy through empathized with. Modeling this behavior for children and discussing feelings in different situations is critical to this development. It is also helpful to get your child...

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* Biggest Mistakes Parents Make (#5) Parents Make Punishments Too Severe

Posted by on Apr 29, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Parents Make Punishments Too Severe Ninety percent of parents believe spanking young children is acceptable. Discipline is about teaching; not punishment. The goal is to help the child to develop the inner voice of discernment and make choices based on that voice rather than  on the threat of punishment or the need to have supervision to make correct choices. Harsh punishments (ie. grounding for a month or spanking) work only in the short term and teach children to be unfair, create rightful anger and resentment towards the parent (which can...

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8 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make (#4) Parents Aren’t Specific with Their Praise and Praise Too Frequently

Posted by on Apr 22, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Parents Aren’t Specific with Their Praise and Praise Too Frequently Most praise children get from parents and teachers is far too generic (8i.e. great job, you’re a good boy) and the praise is far less frequent than we think. In fact, children receive 45% more negative feedback in a day than positive. Praise that is non specific make children less motivated, less self-confident and they will have a harder time dealing with failure. When we are specific with our praise children also understand what it is we want repeated and are...

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8 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make (#3)

Posted by on Apr 16, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Parents Overprotect It’s difficult to see your child struggle or experience disappointment. Parents often jump in too quickly not allowing the child to deal with a problem or face a consequence so they can learn resiliency. We need to show kids we believe they are capable of solving problems. Giving them good guidance and then trusting to make good decisions helps them build resiliency which is key to success later in life. Disappointments will happen in life. Helping them face small things early on prepares them to have the...

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8 nBiggest Mistakes Parents Make (#2) Parents Nag, Lecture, Nag Lecture Then Yell

Posted by on Apr 12, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Studies show that humans tune out when commands or requests are repeated. Nagging is actually a form of “negative reinforcement” and children continue misbehaving to get parental attention. We tend to ignore good behavior and focus on the negative because negative behavior causes discomfort, which we naturally try to avoid. Praise (or even more powerful encouragement) on the other hand is one of the most powerful tools we have to influence a child’s actions. Typically praise is used poorly because we aren’t specific...

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First Biggest Mistake Parents Make

Posted by on Apr 9, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Parents Don’t Consistently and Powerfully Set limits Not setting limits has been shown to create more rebellious and defiant children. This is because children feel unsafe without limits and thus they push the envelope to get their parents to respond. This is true even when limits are set but are inconsistently followed through on. The more consistent you are with following through on limits and consequences the less children test limits and the safer and less fear they feel.  They are also more likely to use good judgement when an...

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Parenting ADD/ADHD Children

Posted by on Apr 6, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Given the present circumstances that have you with your children all day long every day I know that discipline issues will be coming up for all of you. Therefore over the next few days I will be writing about the Eight Biggest Mistakes Parents Make to give you some perspective in how to approach things as there come up. Parenting is the most complex and difficult job we ever do as adults and few of us have any real training in what works and what doesn’t. Most of us rely on what our parents and significant adults taught us even though...

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How To Stop Yelling At Your Kids, And What To Do Instead

Posted by on Apr 2, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

With the pandemic keeping us at home more with our kids and not being able to get them out enough to run off excess energy I felt it would be helpful to give some tips to help out. I talk a lot about parental behaviors that are counter productive to changing the actions of our kids. Yelling and its negative affects is one of these responses that are not only counter productive, they are extremely harmful to our children. The following article Catherine Pearson not only discusses the harmful affects it gives some great tips I offer my clients....

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Helping Kids and Yourself Through The Challenges of Confinement

Posted by on Mar 30, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Change can be challenging at any time. It can especially challenging when an unknown like a dangerous virus completely upends the regular flow of life. If we are dealing with children who are now separated from their friends and many are trying to deal with school with less guidance and support it can be even more stressful. Here are some helpful tips to making things easier to deal with. Create and stick to a routine. Go to sleep and wake up at close to the same time time they were used to for school.  Write down a schedule that is varied...

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Young adult outcomes for individuals with remitted, persistent, and late-onset ADHD

Posted by on Mar 29, 2020 in Articles | 0 comments

Multiple studies have indicated that, on average, youth with ADHD have poorer outcomes in young adulthood in multiple areas compared to their unaffected peers. A limitation of these studies, however, is that they have not typically distinguished between individuals whose ADHD persists into adulthood from those where the condition remits. Youth whose ADHD remits may still experience adverse outcomes in young adulthood relative to others, perhaps because early difficulties related to ADHD sets them on a negative developmental path....

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